Tuesday, January 3, 2012

My New Year's Resolution

Artists are introverts. Have you ever heard anyone say that? When I'm not doing my artsy fartsy crafts or creating music, (both activities I do alone) the person I spend the most time with is Nick, of course. I can be extremely open and talk for hours with a person I'm comfortable with, but I've never been that girl that openly expresses herself in social gatherings with confidence and a sparkle in her eye. (I've always envied her though.)

So, whenever I have been forced to co-mingle with other humans, I've always been a little hesitant and have never warmed up to the idea. I like to be on my own. Strong. Independent. Well…I've hidden my insecurities behind those fierce words, when in reality I think the real cause is…I'm a little scared.

In yoga class, Mr. K. decided he wanted to dive more into "partner" poses. Nooooo! was my immediate reaction in my head. I peeked to my left and found a man with much more muscle mass than I, so naturally I went with the girl on my right. We muttered some quiet and rushed introductions, and then I grasped her hand (a stranger's hand mind you!) and began to twist my shoulders into position. How incredibly uncomfortable it was that first time!

I love Mr. K.'s class, so I didn't let his new found love for "partner" poses frighten me away from going. We were three quarters of the way into yoga class, and I could tell that he was about to tell us to "partner up" for the next yoga pose. For some reason I decided to just get over my anxieties about "new people". I thought "We are all here for about the same reasons. We want the same things. She's not going to bite!" I shook her hand a little stronger than the last time, remembered her name as I positioned myself into downward dog with my mat pulled up against the wall. She grabbed onto an ankle and aided my flight into a handstand.

I think I had an epiphany there (funny how these always seem to happen during yoga class) that we are all here to help each other. No one is really "better" or "worse" than anyone else, and we can learn from each other. Fancy that!



I carried that lesson into band practice. Jonathan, the bass player for "Meg and Dia" and "Dia Frampton", is staying at our manager's house along with Nick and myself. We've been hanging out with each other more than usual. We don't just talk about our stage costumes that we still have yet to coordinate, or how we are going to manage guitar change-overs from "Good Boy" into our cover song. We talk about crazy things to share with another person. Topics that make one vulnerable, like losing love or feeling afraid because of a new, scary medical condition. All those funny parts of life that we usually keep private. 

 "Opening" up feels fantastic and freeing. I'm not going to spill my guts to the next person I meet at a party, but I am going to be more accepting and open to meeting and understanding new people, and also getting to know people better who are already in my life.



I hope everyone has an incredible new year! What are your resolutions? I'd love to hear.

Honestly,
Meg

22 comments:

  1. Haaaaappy New Year Meg!
    I'm not sure if I'm going to bother with a resolution per-se this year, 'cause I always end up breaking them.
    Less video games, tidier room, more confidence talking with a certain guy *cough*

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  2. Happy New year! I'm excited to see what this year brings!
    My resolution is to make more of an effort to be friendly, because I'm so shy I think I come off as being rude sometimes :(

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  3. My resolutions are to write a new song, try to be a better version of myself, and continue my search for luv, light, & peace.

    Enjoyed the post.

    oneluv,
    macca

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  4. I think my resolution is probably to join more activities. I tend to lay low and then complain about being bored. Maybe I will get the chance to join something exciting. Oh, and not die during 2012. These things freak me out.

    Hope you had a Happy New Year! :D

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  5. Good post Meg.

    Wake up at 7 every weekday.
    Climb at least twice a week.
    Eat the foods i care about (raw milk, local, organic, etc.)
    Know what i want even more.

    -Phillip

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  6. This was very nice to hear :) I'm glad you're starting the new year off on a positive note.

    My resolutions include the typical hopes of eating healthier, speaking tagalog more often, drinking less coffee, and just continuing to be happy.

    I wish you and your family a happy new years :)

    -Liezel

    Ps Anchorage would love to see you guys again :)

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  7. Great insight, Meg. We are all fallible. No one is perfect. One of my resolutions fit's in with what you are talking about, to try to see something positive in everyone I know/meet. Even if I see a lot of negativity from them I can learn from that, learn that I don't want others to persieve me that way and in doing so be more self aware about MY actions and words.

    As a side note: Having been raised mormon I like that Chandler the Robot is CTR, cracks me up. Should I get a CTR ring and promote Chandler that way? I think my family would die if they saw me wearing one! haha

    Happy 2012!

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  8. I'm happy to hear you'll be playing 'good boy'.
    I have a resolution to complete insanity.

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  9. Surprise, surprise, I have no new year's resolutions this year! Even with no resolutions my goals will always be the similar to the previous year. It includes eating better, exercising, and being a better person. Only problem is those goals sometimes slip away and get restarted throughout the year. From time to time I'll eat like a pig, stop exercising for a week or two, and every now and then I'll stop being a nice guy for a matter of minutes. For the most part I do stay on track.

    Best of luck to you with your goals for 2012 Meg. I'm glad you are growing and becoming more open. I think it is good to be open! Even with people who you are too comfortable with. It allows others to continue, join, learn, joke, and analyze conversations. Plus they can get a little taste for your personality along with likes and dislikes. And like you said, no need to spill your guts. Just have fun (or endure) the presence of other individuals who float on by in addition to those who dock at your family/friend zone.

    Since you are going to be more "open" now... I'm going to take advantage Meg. I'd like to ask a question (^_^)! Do you have a bucket list? In case you don't know, it is list of things you would like to do or accomplish before you go bye bye. If ya got a one feel free to share some of the items on the list.

    P.S. You seem open on your blog. I wouldn't have guessed you wanted to make this resolution prior to this blog.

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  10. Meg, I've really enjoyed reading these last two posts. Feel quite inspired and I like your writing style. I never really make New Years resolutions but I'd like to start reading more. Yours and Dia's favorite books are definitely on my list.

    Here's to 2012!

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  11. I plan to run from President, drink less coffee, poor more half than the other, switch from fingerprinted sugar jars to those cool khaki packs, stop going into Starbucks, utilize the convenient drive-thru instead, perfect my first language, patent the Megawave ( a microwave, but way bigger), Google with a purpose, shop for sweet looking workout clothes that meet the call center's dress code guidelines, discover the meaning of life just as all the clusters of hip braniacs already have inside the Mac store...what the f is in there, the Spice Melange!?!, bring back jogging, sue the jumprope...i mean c'mon, is a rope really neccessary?, recollect life before Target, update my mySpace, and work on my "oh shit, the earth is exploding" face. Seriously, I'm gonna make a rap album.

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  12. Happy New Year Meg!!!

    My new years resolution is learning how to play more Meg & Dia on the piano. I've learned how to play bits and pieces of songs like; Rebecca, My Ugly Mouth and Setting Up Sunday. Some with music sheets and others just by playing by ear and figuring it out.

    I think I have the ability to play more difficult pieces and I'm willing to test my skills now!


    Also, I do think I should try to talk to more people...if you know me, you know I'm anti-social :)

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  13. Meg, I love reading your posts. You're such a good writer (and a beautiful person from what I can tell). I hope you can continue to write your blog while on tour.

    My resolution (thanks mostly to you) is to learn to play guitar. I just turned 40 and have never played an instrument (other than a couple years of piano lessons when I was 8-9), but I have always been a lover of music and always wished I could play guitar.
    Over the last few months, every time I watch a video of you and/or Dia I think, "I want to play guitar!". You guys make it seem so effortless. I know being *that* good is a result of countless hours/years of hard work and practice...but at my age I don't need to be 'band worthy'; I just want to be able to play a few things...and you're never to old to learn right?
    So thank you for the inspiration and by this time next year I *will* be able to play! (how well remains to be seen;)

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  14. My new years resolution is to try to appreciate the people around me more, and the friends I have now. All of my friends are a year older than me and so they are going to graduate this spring and then next year they will be gone. So I want to be able to appreciate every moment I have with them before they are gone. I also want to be able to fix friendships that have been lost through the years.

    I hope you have a wonderful New Year! :D

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  15. Great post! You always find a way to write a piece that is very relatable (I can't spell)! I am no artist but I am a self-proclaimed introvert. It takes a special friend for me to really open up with and spill every emotion going through me. It takes someone very close and special to do that with. So for my new years resolution I've decided that I am going to be more "open" with people. Again, not spilling everything with complete strangers but being more welcoming to the idea that most people are looking to develop certain bonds with other people in the world. It's okay to be open and it's okay to be more vulnerable. I guess it's okay to say "yes" to people and be more of a "yes woman" like that Jim Carrey movie "Yes Man"!! So there's my new year's resolution... YES woman!! With one simple word life can change in many ways. My 2012 didn't start out with a bang but with rather disappointing news. Hopefully my new years resolution saves me. I am hopeful.

    Writing this after drinking some wine. Yes please!

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  16. These are really beautiful resolutions everyone. Almightycheese, I envy your glass of wine;( haha. one of my resolutions was to cut that out, but oh a glass of wine can do wonders some times.

    "9356fd04-" good luck with that rap album;)

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  17. Seems I have a couple of things in common with highping. I also hit the big 40 this past year and one resolution I'd like to accomplish this year is to learn to play guitar. I've had one for a few years collecting dust in a corner of the room. I also plan to read more books this year. The first that I plan to read is Nick Mason's Inside Out.

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  18. AND THIS IS ALSO HOW I MET YOU AND CHANDLER AND AM GOING TO SEE YOU GUYS,JUSTIN AND BLAKE WHEN YOU COME HERE ON MARCH 11TH.IT WILL BE THE FIRST COUNTRY MUSIC CONCERT I HAVE EVER BEEN TO,I AM OPEN TO ALL KINDS OF MUSIC AS I GREW UP LISTENING TO ALL TYPES OF MUSIC AND REALIZED AT AN EARLY AGE THAT IT IS ALL VALID AND BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE THE PERSON WHO DID IT IS PUTTING THEIR ALL INTO IT.I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO THE CONCERT AND THE MORE I LISTEN TO EVERYONE'S MUSIC I LOOK FORWARD TO IT EVEN MORE,IT'S LIKE IT'S ALL NEW TO ME AGAIN AND I FEEL JUST LIKE THAT LITTLE KID FROM MY YOUTH.THANK YOU AGAIN,EVERYONE WHO HAS SEEN MY "STUPENDOUS CHANDLER" LOVES IT,NO ONE LOVES IT MORE THAN I DO.IF I AM NOT WEARING HIM HE HANGS WHERE I CAN SEE HIM IN MY ROOM,HE MAKES ME SMILE AND THAT'S STUPENDOUS AS WELL.<3 :)

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  19. P.S. ALL ARTIST ARE INTROVERTED EXTROVERTS,I TAUGHT MYSELF TO HOW TO DO ART WORK AND PLAY GUITAR.WHEN I MADE A PIECE FOR SOMEONE I THOUGHT OF THEM THE ENTIRE TIME I WAS DOING IT BUT IF I DIDN'T LIKE THE END RESULT THEY WOULD NEVER SEE IT.WHEN I PLAY GUITAR IT'S JUST FOR ME THOUGH BECAUSE I CAN'T REMEMBER HOW THE SONGS GO (EVEN ONES I WROTE)LITTLE DISABILITY I'VE HAD MY ENTIRE LIFE,RECALL PROBLEMS BUT I TAUGHT MYSELF OVER THE YEARS HOW TO DEAL WITH THAT AS WELL.MY NEW YEAR STARTS ON MY BIRTHDAY WHICH IS THE 13TH OF JAN. BUT I RESOLVE EVERYDAY TO BE THE BEST ME I CAN BE,NOT JUST FOR ME BUT FOR EVERYONE ELSE AS WELL.I'VE DONE THAT ALL MY LIFE AS WELL.EVERY ONE DESERVES THAT FROM EVERYONE ELSE.THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU.<3 :)

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  20. This was beautiful.

    I tend to have the same problem with myself at times and, although I always wish to become more than I am myself all the time (just as you, likewise, mentioned being that outgoing girl with the "sparkle" in her eye), it's always been hard for me to just be satisfied and secure within myself. I always feel as if I have to fight to be more, that my little insecurities just begin to warp me! I just hope that I can find peace, somehow, within myself. Even if it's not complete, improvement is all it takes. Just to take good care of myself, and not lose myself in the process.

    Best wishes Meg!

    And I can't wait to see you this upcoming tour. I'll be there on the closing tour date at Troubadour in LA! It'll be wonderful to see y'all together again after 3 years since seeing you!

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  21. The human connection and the ways in which we are all so much alike fascinate me a ton. I love being able to have conversations, like you do with your roomate, with people, even if I barely know them. We all sort of want the same things from life and they make you see how similar we all are.

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  22. Hey Meg, I can somehow relate to that reaction of yours towards strangers, or being in a social gathering. For the past few years, I've been trying so hard to change it though. So far, even by little, there are progress. And this year, I'll still include that to my new years resolutions. to be just a bit a social butterfly, just a little.

    Happy New Year Meg!

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